Why we can hold ourselves back sometimes.

"Fear is a mile wide and an inch deep" - Alex Hormozi

When you're standing at the edge of it, fear can look a lot like an ocean. Until you take that first step into the water and you realize that it barely covers your toes.

It can be scary, putting yourself out there in any way.  Asking for help or showcasing something you're working on.  Showing your art, in what ever form that takes for you.  Starting that new thing that you've been thinking about for months (or years).

A lot of the time this fear is because we are afraid of being seen, we are afraid of the potential judgement or criticism.  We think that we'll be seen as "screwing up", so we unconsciously fall back on old experiences because our subconscious remembers the mean things that we’ve heard through out our lives. 

“You’d be pretty if you didn’t have such a big nose”

“That won't work at all"

"you can't do that, you've never done it before"

Ect, ect, ect....

But, so what??  Not to be trite or anything, but seriously.... SO WHAT

Some people are going to be mean whether you put yourself out there or not.  And that is on them.

I’ve heard it said “Hurt people, hurt people” and it’s true.  There are people out there who only see the negative, the only see the “bad” and they let you know it.  Because that is all that they see, that is all they will see.  It perpetuates in that way.

You can’t let it stop you from being who you are, from expanding and taking up space in this world.  

People are going to say mean things sometimes.  We just get to choose to not listen, because it speaks to THIER truth, not yours.  We make our own truth.  

I've also hear it said that "rejection is god's protection".

Not everyone will want what you have to offer

Not everyone will hear what you have to say

And that's ok.  Not everyone is meant to be in your path.

It starts with self care.  It starts with knowing your worth and doing the small daily things that feed that sense of self.  So when those haters show their faces you can more easily let it slide off your back.

Things like:
Doing the 10 min meditation that you know helps you feel grounded
Going for that walk or doing that workout
Reading that book
Doing the journalling 
Smiling at yourself in the mirror and saying "I love you"
Dancing in the kitchen while you cook or do dishes

It's the little things that we practice consistently that make up the foundation of each and every day and shape who we want to be.